Christmas Story
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IMDB rating: 6.80 Plot: Hundreds of years ago in Lapland, a little boy named Nikolas loses his family in an accident. The villagers decide to look after the orphaned boy together. Once a year – at Christmas – Nikolas moves to a new home. To show his gratitude, Nikolas decides to make toys for the children of the families as good-bye presents. Over the years, Nikolas’s former adoptive families become many, and soon almost every house has presents on its doorstep on Christmas morning. At thirteen, Nikolas is sent to live and work with Iisakki, a grumpy old carpenter, who forbids Nikolas to continue making presents for Christmas. Gradually, however, Nikolas wins Iisakki’s trust. Together they begin to look after the Christmas traditional that Nikolas has begun. When the aged Iisakki has to leave Nikolas and move away, the tradition of Christmas presents is once again at risk. Thankfully, Nikolas comes up with a solution that brings children joy every Christmas, even continuing to today. |
Actors: Bjorkman Hannu-Pekka,Gustavsson Otto,Rinne Jonas,Vaananen Kari,Leppilampi Mikko,Kouki Mikko,Heimonen Oskari,Ron Roi,Tuisku Antti,Sipila Alpo,Ristinen Matti,Drama,Family,Fantasy,
I cheated on my wife before we wed. Help! Detailed Story?
Here’s the story: I was friends with my wife for about 6 months, but it was an online relationship only due to her going to school hours away. Then I went to boot camp and we wrote for the 3 months I was training. At the end I broke my femur, so I had to stay for another 9 months, 2 in the hospital, and the remaining 7 in the barracks with no off base liberty on rehabilitation to move to the next phase of training. She came to my graduation, the second time for us to meet in person. Then she visited me twice more in the hospital, where we had our first kiss. After that she made around 8-10 attempts to visit me but each time didn’t make it due to her mother not letting her. She was 19 at the time. We stuck through it despite the pain of finding out the day she was supposed to come, sometimes a day before. I knew she was the one for me. In the course of that time I went home 2 times for about a week each, and we only saw each other a couple of days each time. I had several opportunities to have sex with the females that were stuck there too, but I never did anything with them. I finally went on to my next phase of training and when I finished I went to California for mos school. About a month after I got there I was able to take 2 weeks off to go home for christmas. I was so excited to see her, but when I told her she said she was going to egypt to visit family for winter break. I was crushed, but I understood. I did however need a ride from the airport, and none of my friends or family could give me one. A couple of weeks before I came my ex emailed me wanting to catch up with me. I hadn’t talked to her in a little over a year, so I thought things were Platonic. I reluctantly asked her for a ride since she was the only one that was able too. So then after we got back from the airport, we hung out a few times, but always in a group so as to not have the mood of a date. I talked about my girlfriend, so she wouldn’t think that we would get back together. But one night in my room I fell asleep. Everyone went their separate ways and my ex being a good friend of the family still (regretfully) went to say goodbye to my family. She came back in to wake me up and say goodbye. She hugged me and kissed me on the cheek. I didn’t stop her, partly cause I was groggy, and I guess because in the last year and a half I was missing the physical affection due to the distance. She took that as an invitation to continue. So we ended up having sex. I know it’s not justifiable, but if I had been completely conscious when she made her attempts I would have staved them off. After it happened I was so disgusted with myself for letting it happen, and that she didn’t respect that I was seeing someone. I told her it was a mistake that shouldn’t have happened, and we hung out as a group one more time but I made sure to not be near her. I know that was a mistake, but I thought that we both had an understanding. Then I saw my girlfriend the day I had to go back. I felt horrible about it, but I didn’t know how to tell her, so I didn’t. I continued to talk to my ex for a few months after that, she was mentally unstable due to this and her ex after us mistreating her. and I flew my girlfriend out several time to california to see her. I tried to be a friend to my ex and let her down at the same time. I should have know it couldn’t be done. My girlfriend moved into my parents house in march due to problems at home, and in august we got married. We just got a house in december, she was two weeks with me and she went to call the plumber, and she saw the AIM log of our conversation so she read it. Then she saw the one with my ex and she read it, thinking that it was just a normal chat. She called me immediately and asked if I cheated on her. I denied it like an idiot, but before we ended the conversation I confessed. I didn’t have privacy and I wanted to break it to her face to face, but I still shouldn’t have lied. I also had to go to virginia for a month right as this happened. Its hard for me to deal with the loss of trust, but I know its even harder for her. It’s been 3 weeks now, and she agreed to move back in when I return from virginia, but as a friend sleeping in a separate bedroom. She says she doesn’t know if she can trust me, but if she can then she can get back all the feelings that she had before. We talk everyday, sometimes about this, and other times just about the stuff we’d normally talk about. But I know she doesn’t feel the same. She said she used to not notice any one else when we were together, but now she cant help it. I sinisterly love her completely, but she doesn’t believe me. I had that stupid mistake, but I never wanted to get back with my ex. Flame me if you want, but I’m looking for advice or guidance please. I just want to know what to do, or what people think will happen. we never had a dull moment together. When I think about her I almost melt. I get giddy just seeing a text or call from her. I feel excited just th
okay i didn’t read that thing, all i have to say is that i have zero tolerance for crap like that, it destroyed my family, and i hope she dumps you before children are brought into that mix and end up getting hurt !
ryan | Jan 13, 2010
wow. you’re a guy that talks more than a woman. amazing!
fa fas | Jan 13, 2010
I don’t know what to tell you, dear. You messed up and there is a good reason for her to be upset. Some people can’t handle any sort of bad to happen to them in arelationship for fear of it happening again regardless of what the circumstance is.
Just make sure she knows that you care about her and how happy she makes you and take things slow again. Give her time.
It could work, but at the same time you might have ruined it for you.
Good luck!
Ashlee | Jan 13, 2010
Normally I dont read BOOKS. lol But let me try to help you here.
Dont be upset with me, I’m not wanting to attack you. I appreciate you sharing.
However, all I really heard while reading it was "its everyone else’s fault not mine" You passed the blame onto everyone or everything…except you.
Thats what I got out of it all.
The guilt is eating you up but the problem is that you are having a hard time admitting that its basically YOUR fault. YOU fell. YOU screwed up. You blame it on your ex. you blame it on being "groggy" you blame it on not being with someone for over a year, you blame it on everyone or everything except YOU.
As for your wife, if you havent cheated on her while your married and you have no desire to do so, then she should try and forgive you. Thats on her part. YOUR part is to do your best to PROVE to her DAILY that its not an issue anymore and that she has NO need to fear or doubt your commitment to her and your marriage.
GL and my last piece of advise is………….print what you said out and give it to her. Let her know how you feel and how desperate you are to work it all out.
Anonymous | Jan 13, 2010
Ok, if she loves you and trusts you, you need to be honest with her. if its meant to be she will stick around, but the sooner u tell her the better. you will feel less guilty if u are honest with her. if she seems like she is not going to be very forgiving about it, explain to her that you love her and need her in your life, let her know that its not something that would reoccur. its a hard thing to be forgiven for, but since it was so long ago maybe she will be mad and eventually it will blow over. good luck
cam a | Jan 13, 2010
"Sinisterly," huh? Interesting typo.
Your account is completely contradictory: if your ex took advantage of you in your "groggy" state, then I don’t understand why you didn’t cut her off completely, let alone why you were so ineffective in "letting her down" that it made your wife suspicious. At best, that sends a message to your wife that you don’t have enough spine to resist advances, and that means it could happen again. At worst, you aren’t being honest with yourself about what really happened or your feelings. Either way, you need to acknowledge that it was more than one isolated "mistake," take full responsibility for your role in it, and recognize that even if you’re able to work through this and figure out how to ensure that it will never happen again, your marriage is never going to go back to what it was.
MM | Jan 13, 2010
Im going to have to agree with the person above, you gotta accept that YOU are responsible. that may be the first step to getting over this if you can. You can’t put all the blmae elsewhere and you def should not have had ANY contact with this ex after the fact.
It makes it seem like your wife is not the only woman you have high priorities and deep feelings for. I would say go to counselling, work trough it, NEVER talk to the ex again and understand she will have trust issues with you always now.
Angie | Jan 13, 2010
